A Christmas present tip for our Health

Dear Reader,

I've just found a wonderful Christmas present tip I would like to share with you.

I am extremely selective when I share information, and my intention is to
always give you the very best from the best, whenever I make a recommendation.

This time I stumbled over Dr. Peter Tylee’s and Dr. Jenny Tylee’s fantastic
healthcare books. These books are extremely valuable if you wish to achieve
better and more health, higher energy levels and more longterm vitality in an easy-
to- follow process.

Dr. Peter Tylee’s secret is to focus on building up a well-functioning digestive
system through detoxification, proper nutrition and a well-functioning bowel
system. The tools for this process are both free and cost effective.

His proven and powerful method helps your body to naturally heal itself
of many common health problems. And even if you do not have any health problems,
this book offers you a unique opportunity to gain invaluable knowledge about

how you can continue to keep them from coming into your life, in the easiest -
and to me – not only the best-explained, but the best way possible.

Did you know, for example, that health issues like allergies or sensitivity
to many substances such as, food, car fumes, pollen, etc., as well as:

Low energy or loss of vitality for no apparent reason

Concentration problems

Insomnia

Mood changes

Headaches

Skin problems

Tiredness

Muscle ache/s for no reason

Weight gain, particularly when you are controlling your food intake – and

more –

often start with disturbances in our bowel system?
These problems can in many cases be eliminated through a well-functioning digestive system!

Even the best healing-system you have – your natural immune system – is mainly centered in the intestinal area. The effective functioning and quality of your immune system is, in other words, dependent on how well your overall digestive system functions.

A healthy, well-functioning immune system is the single greatest protection we have against suffering the serious effects of disease and infection. Simply stated, the more healthy our immune system - the more healthier we become, and the more rapid and likely is our full recovery if we do become ill. Taking care of our immune system is in other words a vital part of achieving and mantaining longterm health.

In addition to the powerful, “natural method-to-better-health” by Dr, Peter Tylee, Dr. Jenny Tylee’s wonderful book gives you motivating success-tips and delicious recipes to help you reach your goal of long-lasting health and better vitality.

These are some of the reasons why I highly recommend Dr. Peter Tylee’s and Dr. Jenny Tylee’s books. I'm confident the knowledge you'll gain from them will prove very valuable for your health and well-being for the rest of your life.

Simply a great present to give away to someone you care about, or to yourself – as an important investment in health.

Just click here to find out more.

Warmly,

Julia

What we can learn from the need to get approval.

Do you have a repeated need of getting approval from others?

(Do you, for example, repeatedly seek to please others without taking into consideration your personal situation, feelings or beliefs? Or do you try to “control” others in order to win their approval?)

Alternatively, if you don't have a driving need of other’s approval, and feel ok about who you are, no matter what other people think or say – then that’s fantastic! (Whether this is a conscious or unconscious behaviour on your part, you‘re making use of an old secret to long-lasting, peace of mind and happiness.)

If, on the other hand, your answer to the topic question is “yes”– ask yourself: What is it about me that I most want people to praise me for? – To recognise and show their approval of?

Whatever you want from others, whether it’s to hear that you’re beautiful, smart, a great person, etc. – that is what you need heal within yourself, by giving it to yourself. The reason you have so much need for this approval is that you don't truly believe that particular aspect about yourself is adequate – so you search for it elsewhere.

Once you become consciously aware of the part of you that needs healing, you'll no longer have the need to search for it from others.

Instead, you’ll begin taking care of and meeting your own needs, and along the way, you’ll receive a great bonus, namely, others will begin to give you positive attention as well.

For example, when you learn to love yourself, you'll then be able to truly love others and they will love you.

I learned this great lesson when I was younger. I always tried to be perfect: Perfect in sports, perfect in school, and perfect in looking attractive, etc. I desperately needed and sought approval from others, and I believed that I might get even more recognition, if I was ”perfect” in everything I did. The problem with this behaviour was that I could never get enough. I was never satisfied. Why?

Because we can't truly receive something from others, before we are able to give it to ourselves, truly feeling we are worthy of it.

However, with the passage of time, my life-lesson finally caught up with me.

It happened at the time I started to develop a great interest in charity work and psychology – Just being in this area made me feel calm, free and happy. I was doing something I truly loved and I was passionately engaged in it: And what happened?

I didn't need approval anymore! Why? Because I could give it to myself by doing what I truly loved – to help others! : )

So a great strategy to significantly decrease the need of approval is to find something you're passionate about, and then give it to others with your whole heart.

This works wonderfully well – no matter what your passion is.

If you need the approval of others to feel good about yourself, make believe for a moment that you don't, and say to yourself:

” I don't need to seek approval from others.”
And then ask yourself: ”Why is it true?”

You'll discover that you already have the answer to this question inside of you, if you answer it honestly and with love.

Write it down on a piece of paper and experience the benefits, not from getting approval, but from the unvoidable realization that we are all worthy enough, just as we are.

This, of course, does not mean that we shouldn’t care about receiving people’s approval..

But as vital and satisfying as it is to hear that we’ve, for example, done a good job, it‘s equally as vital and satisfying to hear from someone that we’ve been a good friend, mother, brother, son etc. .

Think of all the joy that fills a person’s heart and soul when he or she receives delightful feedback, or words of love and affection from someone who is much respected or treasured. It doesn’t have to be in words – often a touch or a look can say as much. However it’s expressed, it’s a wonderful feeling that we periodically need to experience in our lives.

There is a well known song that goes: “ … little things I should have said and done, but I never took the time. But you were always on my mind.” And the truth is we’re all subject to forgetting the importance of these “little things” during certain periods. This is sad because, as we’re all aware, it doesn’t cost us anything to show warmth and appreciation. And then suddenly, someone near and dear to us may turn away – and then we invariable regret the “little” things we didn’t say and do – that we didn’t make known and/or often enough how important that person was to us. Therefore, it’s worthwhile to try to live in the here and now, at least insofar as showing love and admiration for those around us.

The problem with getting so-called “outside” approval from those around us arises when we are completely ruled by it – Where virtually everything we do is directed towards getting others to admire and like us. This need is a sure sign that we are seriously undervaluing our intrinsic worth.

To learn more about how to heal important parts of yourself, and thereby, significantly decrease the need of approval visit http://www.self-esteemnow.com

Warmly,

Julia

Is self-esteem egoistical?

A few weeks ago someone bravely, and with sincere concern, asked me the following question:

”I'm so sorry, but isn't the focus on self-esteem a cause to egoistical behaviour, and less care about the well-being of others?”

This is a very important question and, at the same time, an unfourtunate reflection of the misunderstandings that surround self-esteem, and yet another example of what I’ve come see as a great ”unawareness” of the vital role self-esteem plays in our ability to establish a caring, positive-functioning relationship towards ourselves, and thereby to others.

Self-esteem has absolutely nothing to do with egoistical behaviour.

People who act egotistically with little concern for others have no
contact with their inner-source of natural self-love and self-esteem.

As human beings, this source of natural self-love lies within us, but we need to be in contact with it to function well – to realize our innate potential. For his reason, many people, who’ve temporary lost this contact during the course of their lives, try to compensate for it in a number of ways – egoistical behaviour is one example.

A lack of natural self-love also makes it more difficult for us to love and care about others in a synergetic way that benefits both parties – which is to say, ourselves and the people around us.

Instead, our relationships to others generally take on – in varying degrees – the characteristics of any of the four common patterns listed below:

1. We’re unable to consistently see the best in others. Instead, we consistently expend our energy on trying to find, or even invent, a litany of ”faults” the people around us may, or may not have, and then become greatly irritated by them.

2. We either isolate ourselves from others and/or act in an excessively egoistical manner, because we simply don't have the energy to either give to, or care about, others.

3. We give or care very sparingly, because we feel that we barely have enough energy for ourselves, much less for others..

4. We constantly give and care with total disrespect to our own needs until we ”burn out” – sometimes, to take the worst case scenario, in the form of a heart attack.

Most people don't have these behaviours totally ingrained in their character, but rather have an habitual tendencie to act that way.

When we begin to experience natural self-love by raising our self-esteem, instead of acting as above, we start to create harmony and peace within ourselves and in our relationships to others.

An intresting fact is also the application of the law of cause and effect, which states that cause and effect are one and the same. This implies that we can approach the nature of the cause by studying its effect. Since they are identical.

This means that if we consciously give of ourselves and care about others with good intentions it significantly raises our self-esteem over time.

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Here's an exercise:

Consciously do three things this week that can help someone or make them happy without them noticing it. And experience the positive effect it has on your self-esteem.

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I want to end this post by quoting a passage written by my friend who recently passed away, Dr. Bengt Stern. He takes the the thinking and psychology surrounding the concept of natural self-love to a global level. It’s a very interesting thought. Think about it....it has much truth in it.

With Love,
Julia

The individual is the key.

The inability to forgive, dread, bitterness, hate and the desire for revenge are not, primarily, relationship-disturbances. They are, rather, the various consequences of a separation between a person’s intellect and his or her deepest core-seed of love. This separation within the individual gives rise to a separation between individuals, and in extension, between nations, religions, races, etc...

First and foremost, these destructive ways of reacting are an indication of a disturbance, and a lack of awareness, within the individual. In order to rectify a person’s observable hostility it is necessary that this individual first resolve his or her inner hostilities.

Until now, the UN, without great success, has attempted to obtain peace in the world by primarily working at a societal level. They have failed to succeed because every individual in the society has retained within his or her person those destructive behaviours and patterns that create animosity to other people. Therefore, it does not help to initiate rectifying measures at a societal level when seeking to end violence and animosity between peoples.

Instead, the work of obtaining peace must, first and foremost, focus on teaching the individual to know him or herself at a deep level.

Today, with the help of TV, it is practicably feasible to reach the majority of worldwide humanity and begin to create widespread awareness of self-knowledge’s significance to obtaining lasting world peace.

Additional picture to my previous post: How to apply your decisions with less effort.

This is my inner-child. I am 6 years old in this picture.
My little sister Monica (with pony-tails) is especially happy since its her 4 year old birthday this day.

Who is your inner-child?

Be kind to her/him.

How to apply your decisions with less effort.

Today, we're going to get familiar with the most common mechanism behind
Procrastination, and how to deal with it.

A common reason for procrastination and self-sabotage when making a decision is often the result of a conflict taking place inside us between our inner-child and our ”inner-parent” that has not been taken care of. (Our so-called “inner-child” and ”inner-parent” are submerged personality-states of who we are. We all have both these sub-personalities.)

This unresolved state manifests itself in the following way.

You commit yourself to applying a decision you’ve made. For example, a behaviour that you want to change: But after some time passes by, you discover that you’ve been procrastinating.
You don’t place much worth and/or confidence on your personal ability to change.

A decision to change must be anchored in every aspect and depth of ourselves: It doesn’t help to tell yourself I “must” – nor do all the rational reasons in the world you can point to for making the change help.

It’s when, and only when your inner-child is a participant in the change-process that the risk of your continuing to procrastinate to the point of self-sabotage lessens.

Let‘s take an example:

You made a commitment to stop smoking. Your ”inner-parent” starts to pressure you with arguments like: I have to quit … Everyone else seems to be doing it. Why should I be the only wimp? … I have to stop - All these medical studies prove a boatload of hideous connections between bad health and smoking – am I stupid ? !

As a consequence of being hard on yourself this way, your inner-child starts to
respond with another sort of reasoning.

First and foremost – it’s so good! It's way too good to stop completely – it’s probably enough if I just cut back a little bit. And let’s face it, I’m pretty stressed out right now – a cigarette would do me good. I don’t know why I even bother reading all these bad-news, research studies. I really don’t – they just get me upset. Eat, drink, and be merry! Isn’t that what they say? After all is said and done, I could die tomorrow.

The result of this sort of reasoning is that you sabotage your decision unconsciously, and start to procrastinate...

Why does this happen?

Well, your inner-child has taken over with a sort of false care and concern – a pretence of empathy. And because your ”inner-parent” is fully occupied with arguing and complaining about you, instead of giving your inner-child the kind of caring attention he or she needs, making this pretence of empathetic “support” can be, from your inner-child’s point, necessary.

So how can we solve this?

If you feel trapped in this process, here are some tips:

1. Before you make a commitment to change, always ask yourself if this is something you really want to do.

2. Identify the key component or components that are more beneficial for you, both short term and long term, than the components that argue in favor of your continuing your behavior (they must, in fact, be more beneficial in order for you to really want to make a change) and write them down on a sheet of paper.

3. Make an action plan, if needed, and especially if it’s a major change. Then put your change into action.

4. If, despite these steps, you feel that you’re beginning to procrastinate in some way, then start to observe yourself and what kind of dialogue is going on in your mind between your inner-child and inner-parent.

Then take care of your inner-child by always being gentle towards yourself and by replacing an argumentative, demeaning inner-parent that may be present, with a gentle, empathic one who kindly reminds you of the change-benefits you have written down. And to really make the best of the situation, remember to always be gentle, in a respectful, non-condescending manner, to your inner-child ( = yourself). You can, for example, also reward yourself in different ways every time you make a progress that makes you happy, except, of course, a reward that betrays your purpose – smoking a cigarette, for example.

An insight into this process, and the use of these steps, can in many cases keep you committed to your change – and at the same time – significantly decrease the risk of procrastination.

What is self-esteem about?

Self-esteem gives us, among other things, the highly satisfying ability to make the most out of our potential through our unique gifts.

So making use of our true potential through our unique gifts is a consequence of self-esteem. Looked at in this way, self-esteem is the cause and making use of our true potential is the effect.

This leads us to the law of cause and effect, which states that cause and effect are one and the same. This implies that we can approach the nature of the cause by studying its effect - since they are identical.

So one good way to find more self-esteem is to make ourselves aware of what we are good at, and of the many positive characteristics/abilities we, in fact, possess.

Here is an action exercise:
Every evening, write down three things that you did well during your day and which of your personal characteristics/abilities came into use in each instance.

For example: I’ve been square-dancing for several years. Today, just two hours before my dance course was scheduled to start, my friend, who also happens to be the dance teacher, became sick and I was asked to fill in, despite the fact that I’d never taught before. I took on the challenge, even though I was nervous and worried that I wouldn’t succeed in that role. But when I was well into the lesson I discovered that it was actually fun, and most gratifying of all, it was working fantastically well. Many students assumed I’d been a teacher for several years!

I was brave and willing when I stood-in for my friend on such short notice, despite my very real “stage fright.” Incredibly enough, according to my students – I was even “unusually” pedagogic.


Another instance: Today, I brought together two colleagues of mine who hadn’t met each other before. But I was nonetheless convinced they could solve each others work-related problems, and they did. I discovered that I have an ability to effectively connect people with each other. I was brave, creative and, at the same time, humble. .


Find three things to write down every day, it doesn't matter if they are big or small, or somewhere in between – and write them down at the end of your day for two weeks, and start to experience the positive effect it has on your self-esteem.

The law of cause and effect is eternal and always in play.

To your success,
Julia

Self-esteem and curing stress and burnout.

A simplified definition many people often use for the word “self-esteem” is that it’s “How we feel about ourselves.” But self-esteem includes broader and more important parts of ourselves, so I would prefer to define it this way:

High, or natural self-esteem is manifested in a wonderful feeling of inner-balance, grounded on self-acceptance and a healthy, comforting self-respect towards yourself.

This is very different from self-confidence which is grounded in what you know you can deal with and accomplish. We can, for example, act in a very self-confident manner without our having high self-esteem.

High self-esteem is knowing who we are and living in harmony with ourselves without needing to have the approval of others.

So what does the connection between self-esteem and stress/burnout look like?

We become negatively stressed when we force ourselves to continue working, even though our bodies have already let us know we’re operating on our emergency reserves. Most of us have a certain level of stress tolerance. However, our usual, everyday level of stress-tolerance significantly expands when we press ourselves to do something we want to do. Conversely, it shrinks when we press ourselves to do something we feel we must do.

One of the root-causes to this kind of negative stress and eventual burnout is very often the result of a conflict taking place inside us between our inner child* and inner-parent that has not been taken care of. It’s often related to our being too strict towards ourselves, which adds a special debilitating source of stress into our lives (This unresolved inner-relationship lowers our self-esteem, though not necessarily our self-confidence – but in either event, it takes up a great deal of our reserve energy– energy we may need to meet unforeseen outside stress factors). In short, such unresolved inner-conflicts increase both stress and susceptibility – and if we’re not careful, they can even lead to our becoming physically ill.

To everyone in a burnout situation, or with a tendency to burnouts, I recommend that you take care of your self-esteem (which also includes taking care of your inner-child and his-or-her needs), in order to meet situations like these with a deeper and higher awareness whenever they occur. Such expanded awareness gives us the clarity to make the choices and take the actions that will serve us best.

Taking care of our self-esteem requires gaining knowledge that we don’t ordinarily encounter in our daily lives. It’s about becoming familiar with, and learning to rely on, the signals that come from our body and our soul as much as those that come to us from the outside real-world we are all trained to deal with. It’s also about getting to understand how this knowledge fits together and how it relates to us, personally, so we can use it in a way that helps us, because it takes into account all the facts about the particular situation we find ourself in. It’s at this point, that we first begin to build a foundation and feel that we have a true self-esteem that reflects our intrinsic self-worth as a human being. Now we're able to give ourselves time to develop, in a natural way, an approach to life that takes into account both worlds and keeps us from negative stress and burnout.

Taking care of our self-esteem requires some effort and courage, but it’s well worth it. The rewards are peace of mind, increased well-being, harmony – and a fantastic ability to create long-term success for ourselves, with less effort and more joy.

When we first begin to look inside ourselves, many of us feel a little uncomfortable and try out different “shortcuts” to avoid going to the roots of our self-esteem issues. My experience is that these “shortcuts” only lead us away from living life to its fullest because our low self-esteem is still there and, as before, constantly works to undermine our sense of self-worth.

We once came to this world to live in happiness and harmony. Deep inside, we all know this, because one of the deepest desires we have in common as human beings is to bring peace of mind into our lives.

We all have the ability to reach this state, no matter what our background. We have a “secret” source of Self-esteem and trust within ourselves that can accomplish this. So one of the most important things we can do for ourselves is to find this source.

Many people who seek to control their surroundings are afraid of their inner reality – but, in fact, it’s only when we begin to learn about our inner-world that we come closer to something that resembles control over our own lives. It’s then, and only then, that inner forces begin to lose their power to take unseen control over our lives.

*Inner child. As children and teenagers we were vulnerable to what went on in our family life and our immediate surroundings. In the event of painful incidents or constantly repeated patterns of being rejected, unseen or insulted, the little child/teenager’s feelings, reactions and images tend to remain in the unconscious memory.

This denied and hurt child/teenager (our fears) will live its life inside of us and unconsciously determine how we perceive the world and our self-image - until we take care of it.

These “selves” of children and teenagers are submerged personality-states of who we are, they can play a greater or lesser role throughout our lives and sometimes lie wholly at the root of our actions and reactions without our being aware ot it.

Copyright Julia Nestler 2007. All Rights Reserved.

Stop those limiting beliefs.

Dear Reader,

Did you make the decision yet?

The decision to develop yourself so that you can access your whole potential and get what you truly want out of life.

You can do this – Everybody can do this. Why? Because the barrier between you and success is not something that exists in the real world, it's simply made up of your own limiting beliefs about yourself.

Nothing, and no one, can stop us from success. They may temporarily hold us back – But it’s only you who can do it permanently.

So success is really a state of mind, "You can, when you believe you can!"

If you are willing to accept this, you will eventually, and sometimes very quickly, have whatever you are open to.

However, these limiting beliefs are walls that need to be taken down whenever they appear, because they separate and prevent us from seeing and discovering all the opportunities that are around us all the time. Opportunities that can help us to live our dreams.

The very instant we make a decision, things begin to happen around us. It’s as though when a decision is made based on an insight into reality, all else falls into place: Events, people, meetings – everything confirms and reinforces such a decision. Decisions are waiting to be made. Excuses for us not making them, however, can be many.

Why does this happen? It happens because our limiting beliefs are holding us back.

One of the most common indications of limiting beliefs is the presence of our inner critical-voice telling us, for example, that we’re not capable or good enough. This inner critical-voice thus generates, fear and self-doubt about our true and innate capacity to succeed in what we do. So what happens next?

Well, as long as we continue to listen to our inner critical-voice, its affects continue, with the result that our feelings of fear and self-doubt increase. Many people try to avoid the pain from this process by suppressing these feelings of fear and self-doubt. But suppression is not elimination and these feelings will rise again to the surface, because our inner-voice continues to criticize and we never actually stop hearing it, even if this often happens only unconsciously, and so the circle goes on.

This repeated supression of our feelings also takes a lot of energy to little purpose. The reality is we continue to be disconnected, from our true and innate capacity to succeed, because we put our focus on suppressing these feelings, which also takes our attention away from taking advantage of, and often of even seeing, all the great opportunities that are around us all the time...

But we can break this circle by taking care of ourselves!

No one can do it better than you, because you know what you need and you can give it to yourself.

Instead of listening to this debilitating ”tape of criticisms” – make a factual analysis of what caused you to play it. Is there actually factual cause that justifies your self-criticism? Would someone else, with the same background as yours, have handled things so much better?

Probably not.

Comfort yourself and treat yourself the way you would treat a child, ask yourself: “What is it that I need?” “How can I best serve myself?” Continue to comfort yourself. Maybe you want to do something you especially like, something that can help you to relax a little bit more. For example, take a break from what you’re currently doing - and go for a walk, take a bath, listen to music etc.

This process will give you more clarity about your limiting beliefs. And clarity will eventually give you the option of replacing them with beliefs that support you, so you can get what you want from life.

- Replace that critical voice with one that is emphatic and kind. This will build your self-esteem. And it’s a phenomenal way to build courage so you can master your fear and walk right through it, instead of trying to suppress it.

As soon as your intentions are strong, you become a “magnet” and start to attract people and circumstances to make it come true!

Your Life's Passion

Dear Reader,

Today we're going to talk about our Passions in life and how they can fuel our personal growth, well-being, and successes.

Our Passions are those things that are most important to us, they fill our lives with meaning, excitement and happiness.

When we live in favour with our passions we become more positive, more creative and more confident. Living in favour with our passions naturally stimulates us to do and be better than we’ve ever been before, which automatically leads us to more success and self-esteem.

How can we do this?

The first step is to find out what our Passions really are. This is not always as easy and obvious as it might sound.

We really need to make a proper self-examination, to finally understand what we really want, and perhaps go on to find new underlying passions that are waiting under the surface to be discovered and bring even more joy, success and excitement into our lives.

The most effective way to do this is to use a system that effectively identifies our most important Passions.

The easiest and best resource I've ever found is this test I am going to share with you in just a few seconds. It’s so simple, but so effective. I was immidiately amazed when I first used it a few weeks ago, together with a wonderful book that guides you through this process.

What I find especially interesting is the process it takes us through. It immediately gives you the clarity you need to take the next step towards your dreams. It’s simply a wonderful guide that naturally unleashes our inner-capacity and helps everyone to build a life based on a deeper purpose step-by-step, until you one day create long-term success.

And the best part is that it can be used even if you’ve just started on your journey to finding your source to more self-esteem. Infact this test will propel your motivation so you can develop more easily and have fun at the same time! : )

Enough said. : ) take a look at this one-of-a-kind test, and also take a look at what other people have to say about it.

P.S. My primary intention with this blog is, to give you lots of free tips and information, but I really can't stop myself from sharing a great resource like this when I come across it.

Take a look at Your Passion – the test, and enjoy! You'll be glad you did.

To your ever-expanding Success,

Julia Nestler

A passionate life for all of us.

What is Passion?

The answer is as unique and fantastic as each and everyone of us. And each of us has a unique answer to this question, haven't we?

We all come into this world with a special purpose that only we can fulfil, and with unique gifts, only we can apply.

We are designed to share these gifts with the world and experience the joy, enthusiasm and sense of fulfilment that comes with it...

When we do this, we truly love what we’re doing and this (what we love to do) forms our Passions.

Our Passions are the things that are most important to us. They fill our lives with excitement and joy. It can be our family, a business idea, health and so on..

When we live in alignment with our passions, we love our life.

Now, as we become more and more aware and knowledgeable about our source of self-esteem, which also means understanding ourselves more deeply – our passions have a tendency to change – until one day, we at last experience a wonderful feeling of inner-certainty deep inside us that tells us we really have made choices that will bring long-term success and a sense of deep fulfilment into our life.

Taking care of our self-esteem is therefore vitally important for achieving a life filled with quality and a wonderful sense of flow.

However, let us live a life in alignment with the passions we have today. We can all do this, no matter where we are in life, and even if we’ve only just started the journey in search of our source of self-esteem.

What we can do is to simply identify our current passions, and live in accordance with them...Doing this will, during this transition-period of our lives, lead us to other wonderful passions...until one day, we finally make reality of those deeply held dreams that have so patiently been waiting within our hearts.

There‘s no downside to this approach, it will only give us a chance for more happiness and excitement on our journey to long-term success!

How, exactly, can we do this?

Next time, I’ll introduce you to a wonderful tool I found not so long ago. This simple, yet effective tool will begin to open doors for you that you can't even begin to imagine today.

To your success,
Julia

Moving forward to Success - Step 2

Dear Reader,

Have you experienced how powerful it is to change the focus of your thinking from the problems you face – and to instead – focus your thinking on potential solutions to each problem as they occur? And have you ever experienced how brainstorming such solutions on paper works to stimulate your creativity and ability to find even more solutions, which finally leads us to better choices and more meaning and fullfillment in our lives.

We once came to this world to live in happiness and harmony. Deep inside, we all know this because one of the deepest desires we have in common as human beings is to live our lives with inner-balance and a sense of flow.

The good part is that we all have the ability to do this. We have a source of Self-esteem and trust within ourselves that can accomplish this. So one of the most important things we can do for ourselves is to find this source.

Once we have done that – and I would like to to emphasize that we all can, no matter what our background looks like – nothing can stop us from living the lives of our dreams!

However, we need to remember that it’s ok to be were we are now – let us be grateful that we have Self-esteem within us. And we have another fantastic opportunity to be grateful for: We have a second gift - a gift that gives us an ability we already use today (though maybe not to its fullest potential)...and that is - to be the creator of our circumstances. Yes! Some of you might have objections and doubts, but when you realize that you, and only you, are the creator of your circumstances, a whole new world is opened up for you. Try to get aligned with this thought, and it will help expand your awareness, which will enable you to see things in a more positive and constructive way so you can start to be successful right now, at this very moment, just by realizing that you have this gift and the potentially infinite power it gives you.

So what’s holding us back? Why are so many people NOT living the life of their dreams?

The two main reasons are limiting beliefs and conditioning, thinking that prevents us from achievement and happiness and keeps us in a “comfort-zone” with a feeling of becoming stranded and helpless.

However, problems are there to be solved, aren't they (?) :-)

Your best antidote to fear and ignorance (which is an extension of limiting beliefs and conditioning) is your deep desire to live the life of your dreams and the knowledge of how to make this desire real.

Desire is our motivator, and together with knowledge, it expands our awareness. A natural follow of this new level of awareness is that it gives us the power to automatically discover which direction leads to the best outcome of our current situation and towards our dreams.

You have the desire and the knowledge, even if you might not see it right now.What I can do is to contribute with some information that together with your desire will open up your own knowledge so you can expand your awareness which will naturally lead you to more and more success.

Personal growth is the key to attaining the life of our dreams.

Till next time, Love and Success, Julia.

- Welcome -

Dear Reader,

Welcome to my Blog!

I hope you’ll find a lot of inspiration here.

You are a unique and fantastic person and you have a one-of-a-kind, incredible potential within you. You may not, as yet, have a clear idea about how it looks– My mission is therefore to be here with you, and empower you to unleash it so you can start to get what you truly want out of life.

This Blog is going to be simple with no advanced features, other than right-to-the-point talk. In this way, I’m hoping you can get inspired to ask yourself the important questions that will lead you to more Personal Success and even higher Self-esteem.

Imagine the green background as a lawn where we sit and have a conversation. I say, “have a conversation” because this is a good way to take advantage of this Blog. You can have a conversation with me by continuing to ask yourself the questions I sincerely ask you to consider – Answer them, and you can then implement the knowledge you’ve gained in this process into your life, and start to experience the positive results you want out of life.

This process is critical if you want to benefit from the information given here. Learning how to achieve Self-improvement is not about taking information in, it’s about understanding how this information relates to your individual thoughts and perspectives.

In other words, always ask yourself: ”How does this information apply to me as a person and how does it apply to my life?”

Only then can you really understand and benefit from the knowledge that is given or the new perspectives you will discover. You have to find it inside yourself. This is the only way to discover and effectively implement insights leading to true personal development and success.

So let’s get started with some thoughts and questions.

Do you live the life you dream of living? If the answer is no, the first thing to do is to see things from a more positive perspective.

A positive perspective works to start the self-motivation you need to move forward and discover the solutions that can start you on the road to steadily nearing the life you wish to experience.

You can effectively begin this process by focusing on the search for solutions rather than the problem, whenever you face a difficulty.

Problems are there to be solved: This is an important, because whatever you give your attention to – grows. This means that focusing on a problem gives you more problems, whereas focusing on the solution, sooner or later gives you a solution, and quite often, new and positive ideas and possibilities, as well. So think and talk about the most ideal solution to any current setbacks or obstacles you might face. If you find that simply thinking and/or talking about solutions dosen’t work for you, write your problems down on a sheet of paper. Then write a list of every single thing you could do to resolve them..

When you are writing down possible solutions, your mind naturally takes on a positive perspective. As you write, you are also taking advantage of the power of visualization, and different kinds of ideas will pop up onto the page in front of you.

This is something I urge you to do every time you find your thoughts fixated on problems – it will make you a more constructive and happier person.

In other words, this particular focus-change, in effect, creates the starting-point for making your dreams come true.